Confessions of a Father Who Failed

By Mitch Rhymer

Reprinted from Albert C. Trent's book Lessons and Sermons on the Home

As a father, I have thought that I was a success.  I taught my son to hunt, took him fishing, set on the sidelines and cheered his work on the football field.  I gave him a good allowance and let him used the family car for his dates.  I thought I was a pal to my son.

Now, that son is gone.  The house is empty without his laughter and conscience comes and sits on my pillow and pricks me at night with arrows that sting like poison.  Not once did I talk seriously to that boy about Christianity or his soul's salvation.  I thought of church-going as something for the women and I wanted my boy to be a man.  Easter found me in a pew, and maybe Mother's Day.  But, the rest of the year, Sunday was the day to go fishing, play a few rounds of golf, or to just sleep late and catch up on my resting. 

And now that my son has gone I've begun to think of the uncertainty of life.  I'm remembering now some of the things my mother taught me when I was a child; things about Jesus and how He gave His life so that all might have a life with Him after death.  I remember all she said about the Christian life - how it's the best life, how it brings a man the greatest degree of satisfaction even on this earth.  And how it gives him something to live for - strength to do the right things, and comforts in times of trial and sorrow.  Yes, it even makes him unafraid to die.

My mother tried to teach me those things, but my father was like I have been.  He was my pal.  We hunted and fished together and church-going was for the women.  He's gone now and mother, too.  He wasn't a Christian.  I wonder is Heaven, too, just for the women? I hope not, because I've changed my mind about the matter.  I want to go there when I die.  I want my son to go, too.  It may be forever too late for me to make up for the wrong I've done my son.  I've written him.  That's about all I can do for the present - except pray.

But I pray that someone will take time to tell my son about Christ, and that maybe he will remember some of the things his mother has told him and will be afraid to face death without a Savior.  But, I don't know.  He's so young, and the young have little fear.

I write this in hope that some father, who still has his boy at his side will realize the duty that he has to that boy before it's too late.  Has a father any greater duty than to teach his son the way of salvation and to live the Christian life before him?

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This letter is a sad fact of life for many who at the late stages of their life have begun to see the futility of the life they have lived.  I sincerely hope that we do not pass off such a heart-felt letter as a ploy to get people to go to church.  Rather, let us see the opened heart that this letter has as its source and think about what we teach our children.

We may have made mistakes in the past but we can change them.  We may with heavy hearts have to admit our wrong doing and tell our children that we are sorry for what we have done.  Let us take this time to repent and have our sins washed away in the waters of baptism ( 1 Peter 3:21), making the choice to teach our children about God and the Bible.


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